Mommy blogs as gateway drugs

When I first became a mother, I found myself doing what lots of other new moms do when handed a live baby: incessantly googling newborn won’t sleep normal, 10 minute naps normal, crying all the time normal. My desperate late-night searches sent me into weird message boards on BabyCenter and outdated Yahoo groups from 2004. I even frequented a hippie message board from the Berkeley Parents Network. But it wasn’t long before I found myself clicking into a world I never knew existed: mommyblogland.

Mommyblogland is a snaking network filled with both snarky and saccharine tales of parenthood. There are let-me-tell-you-how-it-really-is diatribes alongside photo montages of dimpled baby legs and toddlers playing with wooden toys. There are real life accounts of how people survive colic. How-tos for washing your cloth diapers. Comic relief. Really, there is something for everyone.

Before mommyblogland, I didn’t know blogs were – you know – still a thing. I thought blogs were for updating your friends and family on your semester abroad, an alternative to the mass email of yore. Most of my good friends didn’t deign to social media. It was almost a contest amongst us to show how infrequently we could update our profile pictures on Facebook because, you know, Facebook is lame. I had even tried quitting it two different times. 

Photo Booth selfie while stuck under a sleeping baby.

Though I burned with a secret shame, I loved mommyblogland. I would lurk while stuck under a newborn for hours and – hey – those mommybloggers understood. I was comforted by the vulnerability of others: honest words on postpartum weepies, co-sleeping and breastfeeding travails. It made me feel less isolated as a new stay-at-home mom, which is no small thing.

And mommyblogland led to another blog network: the Jesus storytellers and honest-to-God writers. The ones re-imagining the faiths of their adolescence, dismantling cliches and letting fresh air inside musty old rooms. There is only so much breathing of each others’ air that will suffice in the Christian faith, and these ladies yanked up the windowsills for me when I needed it.

So, here I am, 30 years old today. I am starting a blog because I love to write and because I’d rather join the conversation than watch from the sidelines. Thank you mommyblogland for being my gateway drug to the writing and blogging life.

I still love you and I don’t care who knows it.


Filed under Motherhood

22 responses to “Mommy blogs as gateway drugs

  1. Sarita

    Yay, Steeenie!

  2. Brandi

    Sitting with a sleeping babe right now, glad to have something new to read. Write more soon!

  3. Newborn on my chest, fast asleep, and I’m happy to have another blog to add to my regulars. I have loved the bits of your writing I’ve gotten to read this past year…I’m excited to have more frequent chances to read your words!

  4. melanie

    can’t wait to read more of your writing, stina! i’m glad you’ve decided its ok to write for strangers on the internet, sounds like you’ve got something to say. happy birthday, btw. 🙂

  5. Way to celebrate turning 30! Proud of you…

  6. oh em gee. There is no way a single blog comment can contain my excitement that you are doing this. Yay!!!!! Good good good good good good good.

  7. meredithjune

    hoooray, steenie! what a way to welcome in the 30s. love how you are embracing your passions & gifts to share with all. so proud of you. although i am no bloggie myself, i can’t get enough of how you wield words to convey your thoughts & depth that i miss so much. here’s to my first real blog following- there’s no one else i’d rather be reading xo

  8. Kali Reynolds

    Way to go, Stina! I love to read your blogs!! Thanks for doing this, it is great!

  9. Anita Cook

    You are so gifted in so many ways. I’m excited you are sharing your writing talents and looking forward to reading more.

  10. Stina! You have a blog! And Happy 30th! What a day! I’m excited and I’ll be following. : )

    P.S. I agree that I DO need a female pastor in my life. And here’s to kvetching together!

  11. Woot! Brilliant idea. When you turn 30 you get brand new karma…those 3 previous decades are so over! Yessss. Looking forward to reading all your wonderful posts, dear writing groupie.


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